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Welcome to the Sub or Dom dungeon! Are you a dominant man, mistress or a dominatrix looking to take control? Or a patient submissive waiting to start your training. Unleash your desires with BDSM and fetish dating. Explore your inner dominant or delve into submission with our kinky singles.


The Sub or Dom Experience

We offer a thriving, kinky community. A place to express yourself and experiment with BDSM. Our features are designed to help you meet your master or find your willing submissive. Can you handle the heat?

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Read the hottest member stories, BDSM experiences and erotic fiction.

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We are here to answer any questions you may have. You can contact our customer care team who are available 24 hours. We have listed some of our common questions below.

Sub Or Dom is completely free to join, message members, view their profiles and photos and arrange to meet up. If you want completely unrestricted communications (all limits removed) then we ask that you upgrade to become a VIP member. This is completely optional however, and you do not need to be VIP to use Sub or Dom.

A VIP member is one of the awesome people who have paid a small fee to upgrade their membership and help support the site financially. VIP’s get a load of great features to say thanks for their support such as unlimited messaging, priority customer support and can see who's viewed your profile.

Your personal email and details will never be shown on the site, and you have complete control over what you choose to share with other members. You can rest assured that your privacy is one of our prime concerns, and we will never share any of your information with 3rd parties.

Will you Spam my Inbox? No. Our email systems are SenderScore certified. We only use your email to notify you of any activity on your profile but you can always opt out.

Once you’ve joined for free, you will have access to a bustling, vibrant community of people looking to chat, make friends, casual fun and more. You can get to know other members by instant messaging and commenting on statuses. Our members also have some great blogs to help you get to know them better.