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Unleash The Kink

Discover what kinks turn your heat up. Experiment with bondage, submission, whips and fetishes. Our BDSM dating site is your playground to explore your kinky side. It’s time to find your perfect playmate.

STEP ONE

Submit To BDSM

Sign up and complete the registration form. It takes two short minutes. Tell us about you, your age and location.

STEP TWO

Complete Your Profile

It’s time to tell us about your kinks, fetishes and playmate preferences. Tell all and leave nothing to the imagination.

Step Three

Meet Your Playmates

Be instantly matched with submissives or dominants to fulfill your desires. Start exploring potential playmates.

Step Four

Browse The Feed

The Dungeon is where to read blogs and articles, post statuses, images and leave comments. Flirt, chat and experience BDSM dating.

The Sub or Dom Experience

We offer a thriving, kinky community. A place to express yourself and experiment with BDSM. Our features are designed to help you meet your master or find your willing submissive. Can you handle the heat?

Secure Private Messaging
Send and receive the naughtiest private messages.
Our Blog - The Reading Room
Read the hottest member stories, BDSM experiences and erotic fiction.
24 Customer Support
To ensure only genuine submissives, dominants and fetish lovers play here.

FAQs

How Much Does It Cost?

Sub Or Dom is completely free to join, message members, view their profiles and photos and arrange to meet up. If you want completely unrestricted communications (all limits removed) then we ask that you upgrade to become a VIP member. This is completely optional however, and you do not need to be VIP to use Sub or Dom.

What Does VIP Mean?

A VIP member is one of the awesome people who have paid a small fee to upgrade their membership and help support the site financially. VIP’s get a load of great features to say thanks for their support such as unlimited messaging, priority customer support and can see who's viewed your profile.

How Private Is It?

Your personal email and details will never be shown on the site, and you have complete control over what you choose to share with other members. You can rest assured that your privacy is one of our prime concerns, and we will never share any of your information with 3rd parties.

Will You Spam My Inbox?

Will you Spam my Inbox? No. Our email systems are SenderScore certified. We only use your email to notify you of any activity on your profile but you can always opt out.

What's On The Site?

Once you’ve joined for free, you will have access to a bustling, vibrant community of people looking to chat, make friends, casual fun and more. You can get to know other members by instant messaging and commenting on statuses. Our members also have some great blogs to help you get to know them better.